Parashot Matot-Masei: From Sadness to Hope

Good morning, everyone.

This week, as we conclude Sefer Bamidbar with Parashat Matot-Masei, we stand on the threshold of Rosh Chodesh Av—a time traditionally marked by reflection and mourning over the destruction of the Beit Hamikdash. Yet, our message today is one of hope and empowerment. We hold the ability to hasten the rebuilding of the Third Beit Hamikdash, beginning with understanding what is within our power—especially in these challenging days filled with turmoil, division, and baseless hatred.

The Sacred Power of Speech: Insights from Nedarim in Parashat Matot

Parashat Matot opens with the topic of nedarim (vows), a central subject in Halacha that highlights the unique, sacred power of speech bestowed upon humanity. Unlike animals, humans are capable of articulating thoughts and intentions, which carries immense spiritual weight.

A neder is a vow about an object—such as dedicating an animal as a korban (offering) or pledging money to charity. A shavua is a personal oath, like a Nazir vowing to abstain from wine for a period.

However, Chazal (our Sages) teach a crucial lesson: though vows strengthen commitment, humans are fallible and may struggle to fulfill all vows made. Because speech is so holy, it is often better not to make a neder than to break one. This is why the Halacha of hatarat nedarim (annulment of vows) exists to release us from unfulfilled promises.

This emphasis on speech extends to all our interactions. The Haftz Chaim stresses our responsibility to prevent lashon hara (slander). Even when afraid, we hold the power, with a single word, to stop harmful talk. The second of the Aseret Hadibrot (Ten Commandments) warns against misusing Hashem’s name, reminding us to be fully committed to our words. Our daily prayers and direct communication with Hashem depend on the sanctity of our speech. To build a proper relationship with Hashem, we must guard every word carefully.

Priorities in Life: The Rebuke of Reuven and Gad

Another major theme arises when the tribes of Reuven and Gad request to settle east of the Jordan, outside Eretz Yisrael, citing their large cattle herds. Moshe Rabbeinu rebukes them sharply.

My father, of blessed memory, once asked why Moshe was punished harshly at Mei Meriva for one outburst, yet here, with stronger words, he was not punished. Chazal explain Moshe’s anger was due to their misplaced priorities. They said, “We will build corrals for our livestock, then towns for our children.” Moshe immediately corrected them: “First build towns for your children, then corrals for your livestock.”

This teaches us that our children and their well-being must always be our top priority. While worldly possessions matter, they should never overshadow the spiritual and physical growth of the next generation. Misaligned priorities risk rebellion, as Moshe warned. Reuven and Gad’s exile underscores the dangers of impatience and misplaced focus.

Though earning a livelihood (hishtadlut) is a mitzvah, we must always remember what truly matters: to walk "in front of Hashem" (nehalech lifnei Hashem) and trust His guidance.

The Journey of Life: Reflections from Massei

Parashat Massei recounts the 42 journeys of Bnei Yisrael in the desert. Why such detail? As they prepare to enter Eretz Yisrael, recalling these journeys highlights Hashem’s ongoing miracles. Traveling 40 years through the desert was an incredible feat for an entire nation.

These journeys remind us that just as Hashem performed miracles then, He continues to do so daily. Are we open to seeing His hand?

Life itself is a journey full of challenges. We may question how to move forward, but Hashem grants strength to rise each day with emunah (faith) and bitachon (trust). Everything happens al pi Hashem (by Hashem’s will), and He provides the strength to continue.

The Parasha also discusses the Arei Miklat—cities of refuge for unintentional homicide. This teaches that even after grave mistakes, there is always a place to find refuge and rebuild. Hashem desires good to emerge from every life stage.

Ending with Hope: Optimism for Rosh Chodesh Av

Sefer Bamidbar concludes on an optimistic note with the story of the daughters of Tzelofchad, who find fitting spouses despite challenges. Marriage, a mikdash me’at (miniature sanctuary), symbolizes renewal and potential.

This hope is essential as we approach Rosh Chodesh Av. Chazal interpret “Av” as “Elul comes,” reminding us that while Av carries sadness, it also holds seeds of transformation. It is a time to turn sadness into hope, preparing for Elul—the month of repentance and closeness to Hashem—leading to a promising new year.

We can prepare for the Third Beit Hamikdash by elevating our speech, behavior, priorities, and prayers.

The Chazon Ish’s Lesson on Unwavering Trust

I want to share a story about the Chazon Ish. A Rosh Kollel, needing funds, sought his blessing before fundraising in America. The Chazon Ish simply said, “Hashem will eventually give you the money you need.” The Rosh Kollel was disappointed but went on a difficult trip with little success.

Upon return, a student told him a man from South America wished to dedicate a million-dollar donation to the Kollel in his late father’s memory. The Rosh Kollel realized the Chazon Ish knew the money would come—not through the trip—but via a different, divine path.

This teaches that even through struggles, with prayer and faith, Hashem leads us and brings success in His perfect timing.

Have a wonderful Shabbos and a good Chodesh. May this month be one of redemption and salvation for us all.